Pleasure Centre: Pom Vibrator by Dame - Par Femme

by Tabitha Laffernis

Bend and snap—works every time. Dame’s Pom is a bendy, ergonomic vibrator that fits into your palm for pleasure on every spin. 

With COVID-19 bringing dating as we know it to a screeching halt, a cheeky solo sesh is one of the best ways of taking a moment for yourself. The Pom has proven itself time and again to be up to the task, becoming one of my most reached-for toys in the short time I’ve had it. That said, pleasure in a pandemic isn’t its only use: it’s an investment that’ll last well into the world finding its new normal. 

It’s all sexy, flexy curves and a joy to manoeuvre. It features Dame’s most powerful motor yet, and that’s evident from the first hit. Syrupy rumbles and a flexible body take the lead here, with every squeeze and bend heightening those sensations just where you want them. The softly arched shape can hug the mons pubis, and ends in a ridged tip to hone in on the clitoris—or anywhere else you want to concentrate the pleasure.Nips, you’ll recall, are a favourite here. Flip it ‘round to sweep across the whole vulva, listening to your own ebbs and flows to find the best moves.   

It’s no coincidence that the Pom fits to your hand (if the onomatopoeic name didn’t give it away, we love a palm pun). Dame’s crack team used the human hand as a guide, and with a resulting product that can bend in half, it’s the dextrous accessory you wish certain former flames had in their toy box. The full bend-and-snap can also turn it on when a power button feels like one step too many. 


That said, the actual power button is no more than a divot on the topside, and responds to a light touch, cycling through five pulse patterns. A bump on the underside builds intensity up five notches. The Pom is wrapped in lush, body-safe silicone (truly—don’t sleep on the velvet finish of Dame’s products); it’s easy to clean; waterproof and rechargeable. Use it with a silicone-friendly lube for max slip-and-slide vibes. 

The Pom is suitable for solo or partnered play—the fluid handling makes it a dream for couples or even groups, adding extra stimulation without bulk or frustration. It’s also possibly the quietest vibrator I’ve come across—perfect for when you don’t want the walls to shake. Just you. 

Shop the Pom Vibrator by Dame here.

Tabitha Laffernis is a writer based in Sydney, Australia. Her short fiction has been published in Flapperhouse, Hobart, and Gigantic Sequins. You can keep tabs on her work here.